I used to be a bodycon-a-holic in high school and my early twenties. Younger me had more curves and wasn’t sure how to dress them, so I defaulted to “sexy” and played the part. Young me didn’t realize they key to sexiness is being comfortable — being you is sexy. Nowadays I stay way away from bodycons — it’s wonderfully freeing! They almost always were made of thin, cheap material and I had to worry about pulling them down when they inevitably hiked up, always at risk of my spanx (cuz you gotta have some compression when you wear super tight clothes) popping out. But there’s always exceptions, like this off-shoulder bodycon dress I’m wearing as a top.
This outfit stemmed from the dark grey off-the-shoulder bodycon dress that I decided to wear as a top.
To wear a bodycon dress as a top, you need something flowy to go mask what is underneath, so I looked to my skirt collection. The brown vintage pleated skirt leapt out at me and my thoughts went to my flat brown vintage booties and my polyester camel coat. Still, something was missing; I had a great foundation but with little interest. So I added more brown by adding these tortoise shell-inspired glasses… but craved more. I thought back to the bodycon I had tucked into my grey tights (which is how you can tame the mini hemline pest and keep it chic by not having to worry about it creeping up your butt, scrunching in places and holding your skirt up like a hostage) and opened up my faux leather bench to dig through my hats and scarves and came back with this hat and reversible heather grey muffler by Reigning Champ. No jewelry again, but just enough solids put together for a complete neutral, somewhat 80’s-esq look.
Oh, body contour dresses… It took me far too long to realize that I hated them, and trying to be sexy just doesn’t work. It never pops up in my mind as a goal anymore. I simply am — or I don’t care if people think I’m not; perhaps because I’m in a relationship where just being me is hot enough that announcing it to others is simply not needed. But dressing for men really was the wrong way to go back when I was naive and inexperienced. Of course I want to look good, but that’s mainly because it makes me feel good. And I think pleasing yourself is the best way to go about dressing.
WHAT I WORE (SIMILAR): GREY FEDORA; TORTOISE SHELL SUNGLASSES; POLYESTER CAMEL COAT; GREY REVERSIBLE MUFFLER BY REIGNING CHAMP; (AS PICTURED) OFF SHOULDER DARK GREY DRESS FROM NEWDRESS; BROWN VINTAGE PLEATED SKIRT; DARK GREY TIGHTS; DARK GREY SOCKS; FLAT BROWN VINTAGE BOOTIES